Thursday, April 20, 2006

It's a Simple World

George and Darcy are jointly digging to China. They're at least a foot on their way. George: I was singin' a song when I was lying down about knocking down a tower. Did you like my song, Darcy? Darcy, quite calm and matter-of-fact: No. No, I didn't like your song. (There is no insult intended, he's just answering the question.) George, equally calm and matter-of-fact: Oh. Well, I did. The excavation continues.


Blogger Juggling Mother said...

whn does an honest answer suddenly become an insult? if you don't want to know, why ask?

Good for them!

4/20/2006 01:57:00 p.m.  
Blogger mo-wo said...

I try clue in to this sort of stuff myself now that I am blessed with the honesty of little ones.

Simple movement isn't all about taking off your shoes at the door.

4/20/2006 03:28:00 p.m.  
Blogger Haley said...

Now that's good friendship. Honest, but not brutal or meanspirited.

4/20/2006 03:37:00 p.m.  
Blogger Angela said...

At least he told the truth. And, I love that George just said that he did and didn't get all upset and come crying to you because his friend said something "mean"!

4/20/2006 03:40:00 p.m.  
Blogger kimmyk said...

Honesty is always the best policy. Told matter of factly? Is even better.

If they make it to China...let me know...I'd like to have a fish pond dug in my backyard. LOL! Cheap labor?

4/20/2006 06:07:00 p.m.  
Blogger stefanierj said...

Yeah, but you know, I think some of us, even as little kids, preferred the polite lie.

Or maybe that's just me. :)

4/20/2006 09:46:00 p.m.  
Blogger LoryKC said...

Again, I love Darcy!

Though mostly honest, my son is starting to learn about diplomacy.
The two of us were listening to a song in the car this afternoon, and for a moment we were both singing along.
"Mommy, can you stop singing?"
"Hee hee...don't you like my singing?"
"Ummm...well...when we both sing, I can't tell which voice is yours and which is mine."

4/20/2006 10:00:00 p.m.  
Blogger kittenpie said...

well, good to see George has conviction in his own opinion and musical abilities!
I love his response.

4/20/2006 10:40:00 p.m.  
Blogger Mary P. said...

MrsA: Well, one can be honest and tactful, though it's generally beyond a three-year-old. Still children are often insulted when they don't get the tact, even when they're not able to give it out! But George, bless him, is not of that ilk.

mo-wo: The honesty will last till about three or four, and then your little darling will look at you and tell what you know to be a bald-faced lie. It's a sign of maturity (meaning that they now understand, as they did not before, that YOU can believe something THEY know to be false) but how you hate to see it!

Haley: George and Darcy do have a good friendship. It's quite sweet to see. I hope their parents manage to get them together enough next year to maintain it even though they may well end up at different schools.

Angela: Me, too! So often those cries of "he was mean to meeee!" are of just this sort: the other child said something they didn't want to hear, but there was no malice in it at all. George is too nice (and smart) for that, thankfully! And with a solid self-esteem, evidently.

Kimmyk: I'll see about the digging. I think they require payment in goldfish - the cracker type, not the pond type.

Stefanierj: As Miss Manners explains so well, there is truth and there is truth - and they should not be confused with mere facts. And me? I generally feel that when honesty and kindness come into conflict, kindness should win. Not always, but usually.

But in this case, there was blunt honesty but no unkindness, so it's all good!

Lory: Oh, well done, son! That was very sweet, really. Of course, it would have been even MORE diplomatic to just let you sing, but he's only just learning!

Kittenpie: So did I. He's a good little guy, with a calm and unassuming self-confidence that allows him to take a tactless comment without offense, and further allows him to take turns, let other people go first, all without becoming a complete patsy to the pushier kids. It's rare to see this so young.

4/21/2006 09:27:00 a.m.  
Blogger Homestead said...

Oh, it reminds me of "Go, Dog, Go."

"Do you like my hat?"

"No, no I do not like your hat."

4/21/2006 03:21:00 p.m.  
Blogger Jenorama said...

Ah, if only all of us could communicate so simply and honestly...

4/21/2006 08:08:00 p.m.  

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